Everyone knows I want to travel, its my number one ambition however people have always told me you can’t travel the world with children, its impossible you can’t do it, they won’t be properly educated, it’s too expensive, it’s too much hassle, they’ll miss out on school, they wont know where home is, what about their family. This list of doubt goes on for so long that I’d be typing for forever. And I can completely understand people’s concerns, however it doesn’t stop me craving adventure with my children. I know it’s what I was meant to do.
When I was younger I always wanted to go abroad with schools and other relatives, I’d grow up watching my friends come back from these amazing countries and have these perfect opportunities to explore but every time I asked what they did when they where on holiday they always said the same thing that was “oh, didn’t do much just stayed by the pool” it baffled my mind so much I couldn’t understand. How did all these people get to go abroad have a chance to explore but not do anything. in reality these people did do a lot, but they just never let on. But it made me envious and more determined to travel, I even watched my sisters go abroad with their schools and I sat on the side line waving them off as they went. It hurt. A lot.
So, I vowed I’d never ever let my children watch others explore the world whilst they never leave home, I made a promise to myself that if I ever had children we’d jet set across each and every country and do it all again when we finally came home. I do also have my concerns Like there schooling but what people have to understand is here in the UK children have 13 weeks’ worth of school holidays in total and so many weekends to use up. How can I not take that opportunity to find a new destination?
There’s so much you can do for a child and so many reasons why you should travel with your children, the pros outweigh the cons massively, for a start it’s the best bonding experience a family can have. Nobody else there to tell you how to raise you children or giving you unwanted parenting advice, you children only have mummy and/ or daddy to look up to when they need something. Not to mention the amount of activities you can do together the world is full of fun and exciting places and things to do, the bond you’d get with your children from exploring a new place together would be crazy amazing.
The other problem I had when I was younger is staying put made me so unappreciative of my home, I live right next one of the uk’s biggest forests and it is beautiful but there are times where I just sit back and watch the negatives when I have a whole forest to explore, I’ve just gotten so used to have one of earths natural beauties on my door step I’ve never took the time to really be grateful for that now as an adult and I never want my kids to be unappreciative of their home, as that’s where they would have grown up and I want to give them the best time ever, I think taking them away from their home for a while may make them a bit more grateful for what they have on there doorstep as well as being able to travel more world wonders. I could be wrong but there only one way to really find that out.
I don’t know if I’ve mentioned it before, but I don’t really have a bond with my parents, I see them every week but it’s more like popping into a friend’s house than your parents. They get to see their grandkids I get to have a chat with them and see my sisters, and as harsh as it sounds that’s the way I like it. But for me as a parent I’d feel like I’ve failed if my kids only came over so I could see my grandad kids. I’d want them to come over because they want to see me, have dinner with me, talk with me and go for walks etc with me as a family still and the reason I believe I don’t have that with my parents is because I didn’t learn anything with them. I looked at their behaviour and learnt from it, which is grate for some people but i just don’t learn that way, its not my parents fault it’s just not enough for me, actually sitting down with your children to explain something and learning together seems to be the best way to learn not telling them how and moving on, and traveling with your children provides that exact learning opportunity, if you don’t understand something you can discuss and learn from books, museums tour guides as a family, your learning with your children about so many different subjects just from travel alone.
The last big reason i want to tell you about (there are so many more) is because I want to take them away from negativity, my life has been full of people doing drugs or cheating or being in poverty, having no money, alcoholism and abuse, somethings from my childhood, but most of it as a teen or an adult and I just want my children to be away from it and even though family and friends matter its just better sometimes to protect your children from too much chaos and show them other cultures and the different ways of living, different ways of learning gratitude, showing them that there are beautiful things on this planet no matter whats going on at home, to show them there’s an escape. its not just about physical negativity either its about emotional, i’ve never really felt like i belong with the people that i’m around, and it’s not because i don’t like them or love them, it’s just not me and being restricted only makes you unhappy and takes away your individual personality and ability to be the real you and show your full potential in the world and i’d do anything for my children to feel happiness, so i want to find that with them.
Not only that but we live in an area where 4-year olds are allowed to swear, and disrespect adults and their parents will just sit back and watch or sometimes even laugh, my eldest child is also 4 years old and he doesn’t even know what swearing is properly he just knows its bad. I want to keep their innocents for as long as a child should have it and cherish there childhood not have him at the age of 6 bullying the locals, its not right and its not fair, on either parties, and me showing them a whole different world and proving to people no matter what they here different communities can be so amazing and can treat people with so much respect and love its worth taking the trip out there and breathing different air, just showing them a different community can have such a big impact on how we treat others I want to show my children that and teach them to be different and to not follow a crowd just because everyone else is doing something.
I just think travel will be an all round fun and educating experience to share with my children, and im going against the odds and i’m going to at least try no matter what other people say. I know as a family we will have fun together and have a real strong bond, I know at least that much. Everyone should do it, if you want to do something no matter how big or small you should never let what other people say put you off your dreams, I know i’m not.